Fighting Without Destroying

Every couple fights. That's not a sign that love is over — it's a sign that they're two real people. What separates marriages that grow from those that wear down isn't the absence of conflict, but how the conflict is handled. There are fights that resolve and fights that destroy. The difference is in the weapons chosen. When you enter an argument intending to hurt, to bring up everything the other has ever done wrong, to humiliate — the fight becomes war. But when you fight to resolve, even with tears in your eyes, love survives. Paul wrote this to an entire community, but it works beautifully within a home too. Choose words that, even when hard, don't leave unnecessary scars. God is in that conversation with you both.